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Domestic violence takes many forms, although it is usually a combination of physical, sexual, psychological, emotional and economic abuse that is used systematically by the abuser to control the person they are abusing. Domestic violence and abuse happens in lesbian relationships as well as heterosexual relationships but statistically most abusers are men. Lesbian women are not precluded from using refuge services.

If your partner or ex partner does any of these things:
  • Physically hurts you or your children  
  •  Sexually abuses you or your children 
  • Verbally abuses you or your children 
  • Threatens you or your children
  • Hurts, or threatens to hurt, your pets
  • Smashes things in the house
  • Isolates you from your family and friends
  • Wants to control everything
  • Blames you for the way he behaves
  • Puts you down, disrespects you and ridicules your beliefs 
  • Says that if you ever leave him he'll find you and kill you
  • Says that if you ever leave him he'll kill himself and/or your children
  • Says you're an unfit mother and he'll have the children taken into care
  • Makes you believe you're going mad
  • Always promises it won't happen again
  • Denies it ever happened in the first place
  • Makes you feel as though you can't do right for doing wrong
  • Tells you what to do, what to wear, how to be 
  • Takes your money or denies you money for food....

...then you are living in an abusive relationship.

There are lots of other ways that abusers use to have power and control over you. They may not all happen all of the time, but they keep you 'walking on eggshells' because you never know when it's going to happen again.

Welwyn Hatfield Women's Refuge recognises that men can experience domestic violence too. If you are a male needing domestic violence support services you can contact the Men's Advice Line on (freephone) 0808 801 0327. The line is open Monday to Friday from 10.00am to 1.00pm and 2.00pm to 5.00pm. You can leave a message if the line is closed or busy and they will call you back.